Eid Mubarak my beautiful readers. I took a break during Ramadan to focus on my spirituality and to preserve my energy.
Curiosity is vital. Practicing living life from a state of curiosity will transform your life because you’re looking at life through a realm of possibilities as opposed to living in the sadness of the past and the anxiety of the future.
People tend to mistake curiosity for being nosy and intrusive. It’s actually the opposite. When you’re being intrusive, you’re attaching yourself to the lives and surface patterns of others. Curiosity is when we go within. We’re testing ourselves. We’re looking at how our egos react to things and why they react the way they do. When we’re curious about others, we’re trying to figure out how we relate to them.
When you approach your thoughts through curiosity, you’re silencing your fears. You go from judging yourself for feeling the way you do, to understanding your ego and trying to soothe it as if it’s a small child (which it technically is, because our ego protects us from being vulnerable to our deep seated fears that were formed through childhood). You’re giving yourself the empathy you need to work through your emotions and it slows you down so you don’t go through fits of extreme highs and extreme lows.
Without curiosity, you feed into your demons. They’re there, so denying they exist is putting leading you nowhere. We need to pass through our demons in the healthiest way we can. We do the inner work so we can address these demons with curiosity. Why are we so hurt? Why are we triggered the way we’re triggered?
Rather than feeding into your triggers, with curiosity, you can stand outside of your fear. You place a boundary with your trigger that whilst they may come and go, they cannot hurt you. They are thoughts that pass. You’re willing to listen and try to understand, but you are not willing to identify with your triggers and fears and let them take over you.
With curiosity, rather than saying “oh my God this is just horrible/scary/triggering”, you ask yourself what is it that you’re feeling. You ask yourself where these feelings are coming from and you give yourself the space to listen to your inner voice to see what it needs.
Your inner voice is a child in its innocence and empyrean in its power. Curiosity is the path to enter this state of mind. Here, everything is possible.
Rather than assuming, which are often thoughts based on patterns your ego notices and tries to protect you through telling you that you’re repeating situations that may have traumatised you (ie: abandonment, rejection, etc), you’re using curiosity as a healthy mechanism to nudge yourself in the right direction.
You take yourself out of the victim mentality of the ego by really trying to understand what is truly going on and bring yourself to real change. Asking yourself what is going on gives yourself the love, care and attention you deserve; even if you don’t get the answer immediately.
You stop assuming what’s happening in your body, you stop assuming the actions of others (called a non-mentalising stance) and you open the door of possibilities to interpret what may have happened. It helps you relax enough to actually ask!
Curiosity brings you back in the present moment. It disarms your fears and negativity and it helps you embrace every part of you without faking positivity, which helps to clear the path to bringing out the best in you.
Love you loads xoxo